Whether you are a seasoned sub or a newbie, this post will help you understand why you should try phone sex submission  and build an ongoing dynamic with a phone sex Domme.  And make no mistake, you SHOULD try it!  Every Dominant, Mistress or Goddess has their own style, preferences and rules for how they choose to dominate.    Even if you have served a Dominant in the past, experiencing new levels of submission will only enhance your journey.  You will discover new kinks, have your boundaries pushed and be accountable.

Why Phone Sex Submission?

Generally there are three groups of guys who enjoy phone sex submission:  newbies, experienced subs who are without a Domme. and Sissy subs who want the guidance of a Dominant.     When you are learning how to ride a bike, you start with training wheels.  Sometimes that’s exactly what phone sex submission is for many guys. (Time to start peddling guys!)   Newbies need a way to start experiencing the D-s dynamic and phone sex submission is the perfect way to do it.    You can share you inner most secrets safely while exploring the dynamic.  Determining not only what you enjoy or don’t, but also what you like in a Dominant female.

Experienced subs may find themselves without a strong female influence in their lives and seek out a Mistress on the phone.  What may start out as a temporary fix can often become a fulfilling exciting sexual adventure over months or years!.  Explore new kinks all from the comfort of your own home.

Sissies also seek out phone sex submission.  They want someone to encourage them to dress up, suck cock and explore all things feminine.   They often enjoy being watched on Skype, and trained to embrace lingerie, wigs, heels and the sissygasm.

Finding the Right Phone Domme

You can look at photos, listen to her voice and read her blog, but in the end, it will be that illusive connection that draws you to a particular Phone Sex Domme.   You Do want to make sure her kinks align with your own and your schedules mesh, but realize her goal will be do push your kink boundaries.   The first call will be about discovering each other and determining if there is a fit.  The great thing about phone sex submission is it’s a safe place to explore things you might not be ready to explore in person.  Remember the professional on the other end will have a wealth of knowledge and insight to many kinks. and will offer a lot of great information, and stimulation.   We never want to forget the stimulation!

Tips for Successful Submission on the Phone

The best Dominant-submission dynamics over the phone happen over time.  I am not saying you you won’t have an incredible experience on the first call, but what I am saying is, the more you get to know your Mistress, and the more she knows you,  the more exciting the experience will become.   So, try and stick to a schedule of how often you are able to call.  Once or twice  a week is a good start.

A great Dominant will often give you tasks to work on outside of your calls.  Do the homework, purchase toys requested, over deliver and show your Mistress you want to obey and have a deep desire to please her.  If she asks you to naked and on your knees at the start of every call, then be naked on your knees.   Don’t be afraid to open up and share you inner most thoughts.  Ask questions, this is the time to explore and learn.

Do not compare your phone Mistress with a past Mistress.  Every woman has her own style and approach to dominating.  It’s your job to learn it, understand it and serve her through it.  Never try and bring past rules and regulations to the table or top from the bottom.   

For my Sissies in training, having a phone sex Dominant can help guide your journey.  Every sissy needs that feminine influence to help you achieve your sissy goals.   You will get instruction in every aspect of femininity,  from fashion to being fucked.    Many feel that have nobody that they can talk to about all things fem.   Your phone Domme can be a gal pal and mentor.

If you are without a Domme and are looking to submit, there is no greater way to explore than utilizing phone sex submission.  Check my blog often for more great information on all things BDSM!

Your Kink Advisor,

Goddess Skylar